Practice library
Something small to practice together.
Begin with an illustrated story, explore a book diagram with a guided explanation, or choose the base your relationship needs today. The four illustrated stories and four Dāna practices are free; one purchase opens the complete library while the program is offered.
Dāna: Give Without Counting
See how a household scoreboard can become a freely chosen act of care—without ignoring a real imbalance.
Piyavācā: Choose Kind Words
Watch one pause turn a defensive reflex into language that keeps truth and connection in the same room.
Atthacariyā: Act Before Being Asked
See the difference between waiting for instructions and taking complete ownership of what shared life requires.
Samānattatā: Stand as Equals
See how equal dignity changes a career conflict from a hierarchy into a plan that makes room for two lives.
The Four Bases as a Living System
See why generosity, pleasant speech, beneficial action, and radical equity become stronger when practiced together.
The Four Types of Couples
Use the four-quadrant matrix to recognize a relationship pattern under stress without turning the pattern into a permanent label.
The Concentric Circles of Priority
Map where decisions, attention, and emotional energy belong so outside demands do not consume the family sanctuary.
The Silent Help
Lift one burden your partner carries and let their relief—not recognition—be the reward.
The Dishwasher War
See how one uncounted contribution interrupts a familiar cycle of debt, defense, and distance.
The Ledger Check
Catch scorekeeping in real time and rewrite the thought before it becomes resentment.
The Thermostat Reset
Process outside stress before it becomes the emotional temperature of your home.
The Forgotten Errand
A missed promise becomes either a character attack or a problem two people can solve.
The Text Audit
Review the emotional tone of your recent messages and send appreciation with no logistics attached.
The No-Interruption Challenge
Trade rebuttal-building for curiosity and prove that your partner’s meaning arrived.
The Sacred Pause
Step out of escalation without abandoning the conversation or using silence as punishment.
The Weekend Chaos
Compare passive helping with anticipatory action before a demanding weekend begins.
The Mental Load Lift
Take one recurring responsibility fully off your partner’s mind—remembering, planning, doing, and closing.
The Sunday Summit
Synchronize the week before its friction points turn into resentment and parallel lives.
The Buffer Zone
Create a protected block of deep focus or deep rest and remove its predictable interruptions.
The Career Crisis
A scheduling collision reveals whether income, status, or expertise quietly outranks equal dignity.
The Pronoun Audit
Move from “you versus me” language to words that place both partners beside the problem.
The Empathy Mirror
Witness your partner’s difficulty without ranking, minimizing, comparing, or fixing it.
The Power Swap
Trade Captain and Passenger roles so competence creates freedom instead of permanent hierarchy.
The One-Pot Audit
Examine whether money is family capital, personal leverage, or a source of unequal permission.