Open one prompt.
Use the site for a few focused minutes—never as another stream to consume.
A 30-day practice for modern couples
Ancient wisdom for love in a distracted world.
Use technology briefly to put it down. In 5–15 minutes a day, a scientist’s practical interpretation of the Four Bases helps you return to gentler conversations, shared effort, and undivided attention.
Start with a free quiz. Who’s playing?
Just me · 2 minWhat’s your love strength?Eight everyday moments. Find the base you lead with.→With my partner · 6 minHow well do you read each other?One phone. Answer, guess, and reveal together.→Free, no account needed. See all four quizzes →
5–15minutes a day
30guided days
24practices, diagrams & rituals
1purchase for both
The modern pressure
You can share a room and still lose each other to the feed.
Technology is useful. Unprotected attention is costly. Work alerts, social comparison, and endless scrolling can quietly turn two people into parallel lives.
Put the phone down.
Every practice moves into the room: a conversation, a gesture, a shared task, or quiet presence.
Return to each other.
Build repeatable rituals that protect attention when real life becomes loud again.
Use the screen as a doorway—not the destination.
Why a guided month?
The app is the doorway. Your relationship is the destination.
The book gives you the map. The journey turns it into a short daily rhythm—what to do tonight, what to say when tension rises, and how to begin again without keeping score.
Purchase the 30-day journeyStop typing the fight.
Use a short de-escalation prompt, then return to voice, face, and tone instead of trying to resolve hurt through a text thread.
Make care visible.
Practice greetings, no-phone rituals, shared tasks, and small acts that turn good intentions into something your partner can feel.
See what is becoming steadier.
Track completed days and your own dated diagnostic trends. Share individual check-ins with your partner only when you choose.
Book + practice
The wisdom stays with you. The journey moves with you.
The book gives you
- The four-part framework
- Stories and perspective
- A language for understanding the pattern
The journey adds
- A specific next step every day
- Short prompts that move you face-to-face
- A complete 30-day sequence
- Shared progress without scorekeeping
- Full practice-library access while the program is offered
From book to behavior
See the architecture. Practice it for 30 days.
The book gives you a complete relationship map. The paid journey shows where you are inside it, connects every week to its underlying ideas, and turns those ideas into one clear daily action.
Dāna
GenerosityReplace scorekeeping with an abundance mindset.
Abundance MindsetPiyavācā
Pleasant SpeechMake speech a place of safety and repair.
Art of De-escalationAtthacariyā
Active PartnershipTurn good intentions into shared action.
Beneficial ConductSamānattatā
Radical EquityBuild equal dignity into daily decisions.
Equal DignityThe framework
Four ways to return to each other.
Early Buddhist relationship wisdom, translated into a practical operating system for the ordinary moments that shape a modern life.
Generosity
Dāna
Abundance over scorekeeping
Pleasant Speech
Piyavācā
Safety over winning
Active Partnership
Atthacariyā
Initiative over passivity
Radical Equity
Samānattatā
Shared dignity over hierarchy
The Four Bases in real life
See the moment. Choose a different ending.
Four illustrated stories turn everyday tension into a practical shift you can recognize, discuss, and try together.
Dāna · Generosity
Give Without Counting
See how a household scoreboard can become a freely chosen act of care—without ignoring a real imbalance.
Read the illustrated story →
Piyavācā · Pleasant Speech
Choose Kind Words
Watch one pause turn a defensive reflex into language that keeps truth and connection in the same room.
Read the illustrated story →
Atthacariyā · Active Partnership
Act Before Being Asked
See the difference between waiting for instructions and taking complete ownership of what shared life requires.
Read the illustrated story →
Samānattatā · Radical Equity
Stand as Equals
See how equal dignity changes a career conflict from a hierarchy into a plan that makes room for two lives.
Read the illustrated story →
From the published book
Ancient wisdom, brought into the room where modern love actually happens.
The Four Bases come from early Buddhist teachings on generosity, loving speech, beneficial action, and equal regard. The 30-day journey turns them into a living rhythm for modern couples.
Build trustDefuse conflictDeepen intimacy
Reader perspective
The book is already starting conversations.
Read independent reader reviews, explore the published edition, and see how the framework is landing beyond these pages.
Read reviews on Amazon ↗“Feelings are weather. The Four Bases are how two people keep building when the weather changes.”
From the book’s central framework
Free activity preview
Begin with generosity.
Four public Dāna practices are open now. Each one turns the abundance mindset into something you can do tonight—no account required.
Activity · DānaOpen
The Silent Help
Lift one burden your partner carries and let their relief—not recognition—be the reward.
Reading · DānaOpen
The Dishwasher War
See how one uncounted contribution interrupts a familiar cycle of debt, defense, and distance.
Couples game · DānaOpen
The Ledger Check
Catch scorekeeping in real time and rewrite the thought before it becomes resentment.
Read-aloud ritual · DānaOpen
The Thermostat Reset
Process outside stress before it becomes the emotional temperature of your home.
The 30-day Temple Builder
A month of tiny choices. A different way of being together.
Open one short prompt, put the screen down, and practice one base at a time—with shared progress and a gentle rhythm that fits real life.
Week 1Dāna7 days
Week 2Piyavācā7 days
Week 3Atthacariyā7 days
Week 4Samānattatā9 days
The complete 30-day journey
One small practice can change the tone of an entire day.
A one-time couples course—not another subscription. Use a few focused minutes online, then take the practice into the life you share.
✓ One purchase opens both accounts✓ 5–15 minutes a day✓ Shared progress, not a scoreboard✓ Return access while the program is offered
Introductory price
$39 one timeCreate and verify your private account first, then pay once to open the Temple and invite your partner at no extra charge.Purchase the journeyTake a free quiz first →Practice with dignity and safety
This is education—not therapy or crisis support.
The Four Bases never ask anyone to tolerate fear, coercion, threats, controlling behavior, or physical harm in the name of love. If you are unsafe, seek qualified individual support or local emergency help rather than relying on a couples exercise.